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The Busy Girl’s Guide to AWESOME – 7 Things to Keep You Centered

I am busy. Some would describe me as crazy busy. I have 3 kids at home, my husband works away often, I live on an acreage with tons of upkeep and I spend 2-3 hours in my car daily. I work, I run a business and my kids are all in activities, I sit on the executive of some boards, I teach, I learn and I volunteer. I am so busy giving that I often forget myself. I have a few things that help and keep me in line. This is my go-to list but maybe something will resonate for you too.

1. Take time to meditate. This is not hours long ‘Ommmmmm’ sessions. Sometimes I get 5 or 10 minutes. I set my alarm on my phone and stop to breathe. Sometimes I pop in a cd that is a guided one for say…20  or 30 minutes. Sometimes this is in a car waiting outside a rink or a dance studio. You do not need to be in lotus position or have a ton of time. It centers me and clears my head.

2. Choose an attitude. I make a conscious choice. Who do I want to be today? Not necessarily ‘me time’ but it affects my whole day.

3.  Do something that you are passionate about. Talk about it. Get everyone excited that you are doing it too. I love to do make-up for theater productions. I don’t do a ton, but when I d0, it energizes me and makes me remember who I am (beyond mummy and wife and all of those other hats that we wear)

4. Take time to see a friend. Sometimes a walk or a tea with a friend is almost a mini-vacation. Choose someone who makes you feel GREAT. Surround yourself with people who make you better, wiser, stronger… not ones who make you feel guilty or insignificant.

5. I gave permission to a couple of friends to remind me to spend some time with ME! They are my ‘guardians’. I admit it. Sometimes I need a keeper. They are totally allowed to call me out on being too centered on everyone else and give me that push I need for ‘me time’.

6. Take mini-me time. For me…an hour in Chapters with a latte and I feel like a new woman. If  I am out running errands I will treat myself to a lunch like Sushi that my family doesn’t like. You have to eat anyway…why not something you love?

7. Be Grateful. I can’t tell you how easily you can change your state by listing off the things you are grateful for. The more you do it the easier it becomes. By the way…this is YOUR list, no one is listening or judging you for it…so if chocolate chip cookies come before your mother-in-law…don’t worry – I won’t tell!

©Jolie Engelbrecht 2012


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Ditch Some Stress in 10 minutes or Less

So today I DID something about it.

For months and months, I have been stepping on this pointy plastic piece that was poking through a hole in the rolling matt under my office chair. It hurt to step on it and I managed to do that several times a day.  I would hit it and grumble and move but I never actually fixed it. It was irritating but I lived with it. I can’t express how many times I hurt my foot on it.

This afternoon I pulled out my chair, pulled up the matt and pulled the piece out. Total effort?…minimal. Total time?… about 10 seconds. 10 little seconds and it will never ever irritate me again? What the hell took me so long?

This summer my husband finally fixed a piece of rotten wood in our hayloft that had bothered and scared me for over 9 years. It took him 10 minutes to fix it and  I was upset that he had left something that had caused me anxiety for almost a decade that was so easily fixed. This morning made me take a moment and think, “How am I any better? “

It got me thinking that that is probably the way it is with so many things in our life. What are the little things that we just live with, not fixing, not finishing, that are causing us pain, irritation or stress? What can we accomplish if we fix or finish some of those things? Do we even recognize them anymore?

What would life look like with less pain, irritation and stress?  My answer is “Pretty Darn Good.”

So…this week my mission is to get rid of some of those things and see what happens. If I can do that in 10 seconds, can you imagine if I focused a whole hour?

I am starting my list right now. 6 things that will take me 10 minutes or less to fix or finish.

How about you?

©Jolie Engelbrecht


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No Limit on Happiness

You hold the key to happiness in your hands.

Recently a few tragedies have touched my life in different ways. Seeing friends and family coping with things like losing a child or a terrible health problem really make a person stop and reflect on what you are doing. I watch people go through their lives saying…” I’ll be happy when…”
It is a line that seems really innocent, however it is really misleading. Sometimes we all get so caught up in chasing our ideals we forget the here and now. We forget the beauty of watching the sun rise because we are in a hurry to get out the door to work. We think we will play that card game with our kids in the winter, but it never happens. We will be happy when the garage is cleaned out, or we lose that weight or when the mortgage is paid off. We will work on our relationship once the baby can sleep through the night or once they are out of diapers.
The reality is that there is nothing wrong with those statements as long as we don’t forget that we can be happy NOW as well. There is no limit on the happiness we can have so why don’t we enjoy it right here, right now AND later?
So give your loved ones that extra hug. Tell them you love them. Do a random act of kindness. Take that class you always wanted to. Dance around your living room. Stop and help that little old lady get across the street. Live the life you are meant to and do it now. Later will get here when it does…but imagine…who you could be if you lived your life like the happy person in your daydreams?

©Jolie Engelbrecht